Some statistics show that second marriages are more likely to end in divorce than first marriages.
But it's not all bad news.
Relationship experts say many times, second marriages can actually be stronger than first marriages because the partners know themselves better and are more committed to getting it right.
We found a Lehigh Valley couple with that kind of fiery attitude about their second time down the aisle.
They are Dierdre Kamber Todd and Russ Todd, married five years now.
One of their favorite things to do is to make fiery bacon dark chocolate ice cream.
It's bacon, dark chocolate, hot pepper spices and ice cream, with a touch of cinnamon.
" It's hot. It's cool. It tastes delicious," says Deirdre Kamber Todd.
The Todds love spicy, unusual foods so much they have their own website devoted to it and they travel the country to jump into food competitions whenever they can.
"Deirdre can handle the hot food, I can eat fast and we just go around and enjoy different foods and competitions and enjoy each other's company," says Russ.
It's a hobby they feel is part of the glue that keeps them together.
Deirdre says she learned a few things from her first marriage.
"It's not enough that you're in the same stratosphere, whether you're being connected by what you do for a living, you know those superficial connections. At the end of the day, you've got to find something else that's going to keep it interesting," she adds.
Relationship experts agree that Deirdre and Russ are on the right track.
They say for a great second marriage:
* Find a common interest and explore it together
* Be honest and communicate about the past and the future
* Accept that there will be ups and downs
* Be patient and forgiving
Deirdre says it was Todd's idea to explore their goals often.
"He said as long as you're always keeping in mind those long term goals that are going to take you past, whatever bump in the road you hit, that eye toward the horizon, then everything else becomes fairly minor."
She says initially they would discuss goals once every three months to figure out if there were things they needed to address, predominately pertaining to their children and their blended family.
Deirdre is an attorney and Russ, an engineer. How do they find time for a hobby?
"We look for ways to fit it in to what we would do anyway," says Deirdre.
:Experts say couples should also take time to really explore and understand why their first marriage failed before getting married a second time..
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